Two of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves are love and forgiveness. We go through life granting these gifts to others, yet fail to do so for ourselves. These are paramount for our souls to flourish and must be incorporated into our daily lives. By doing so, we invite the gifts of peace, acceptance, fulfillment and the love of our Savior to occupy our souls. This in turn builds a deep reservoir that we can draw from in our times of need and service to others. When we love ourselves, the world seems to change for the better…not necessarily because circumstances have changed, but because our perspectives have changed. We change our lens so to speak.
Imagine a time in your lives, when hope was lost, struggles ensued and you were shaming yourself. How did you view the event(s)? How did you view yourself? How did you view others? Did you feel powerless or powerful? Now, contrast that image with a time in your lives when you operated from a place of total love for yourself and others. Did this feel and look different? Absolutely! This is the place where our souls feel the most alive, are the most receptive, and offer our best selves. Imperfections and missteps are our friends! They give us the chance to practice loving and forgiving ourselves in addition to so much more. We all deserve to be loved and forgiven and in turn give love and forgiveness. This process is a never ending round that brings beauty, refinement, transcendence, peace, and joy.
I have lived on the other side of this coin many years ago, yet I can vividly recall. I had experienced things that left me feeling damaged, worthless, and shameful. I internalized these events and turned the bitterness and hurt towards myself. These were some dark days filled with self-defeating behaviors. In fact, I was so blind to this concept, I didn’t even realize that I was being held for ransom by a lack of self-love and self-forgiveness. Time, the love of others, and the mercy of our Heavenly Father revealed this truth to me and I began to diligently work on myself. I began to apply the Atonement in a way I had never before thought possible or necessary. I began to pour over self-help books and inspirational books. I began to alter my mindset in a drastic way. I am deeply grateful for this knowledge and the opportunity to love myself, forgive myself, and then grant the same to others. These two gifts have brought countless blessings into my life along with personal freedom.
I promise, personal inner work is well worth the effort and time. “It is in freeing ourselves to be present and genuine in life that we find trust and confidence in ourselves, that we grow and master and realize our highest selves, that we find authentic joy in our interactions and experiences in the world, that we feel motivated and liberated.” (Brendon Bruchard) Connect to something greater than yourself—whether that’s God, the Universe, nature, or something else. You will blossom, grow, change, overcome, and be filled with a pure love for oneself and others. It’s a beautiful thing! Choose to love yourself! Choose to forgive yourself! Abundance, blessings, and beauty await.
God bless and love to all!